Thanksgiving is that magical time of year when we gather with loved ones to share a feast, give thanks for the good things and, let’s be honest, survive the inevitable awkward questions. It’s a day to enjoy, not to burden it with comments that ruin the mood. So, my friend, let’s talk about what NOT to do this Thanksgiving.
Avoid personal life interrogations.
Ah, the classic: “Are you married yet? When will you get a girlfriend/boyfriend?” Please don’t do that. We all have our rhythm in life and those questions, even if they seem harmless, can make someone feel pressured or even sad. Not everyone wants to talk about their love life in front of an audience. Instead, ask something like, “What’s the most exciting thing that’s happened to you this year?” You’ll see how the conversation flows better.
Don’t comment on weight or physical appearance.
“Oh, you look chubbier this year!”… Really? Thanksgiving is about celebrating, not about making someone feel bad for enjoying mashed potatoes or pumpkin pie. These comments may seem like jokes, but they have a negative emotional impact. Better appreciate something positive: “Your smile lights up the room!” That never fails.
Don’t talk about controversial topics like politics or religion.
Even if you’re tempted to debate the latest news, Thanksgiving is not the time to split the table. These topics, especially when opinions are opposing, can turn a pleasant evening into a verbal battleground. If someone insists, change the subject to something more neutral: “What’s your favorite dish on the table?” Much safer!
Don’t criticize others’ life choices.
“Are you still in that job? Haven’t you thought of something better?” These questions seem like genuine concerns, but they sound like criticism. Everyone is fighting their own battles, and we don’t know what’s going on in your life. If you want to be supportive, opt for phrases like, “I hope this year has brought good things for you.”
Don’t belittle the efforts of whoever prepared the dinner.
If the turkey is a little dry or the gravy isn’t your favorite, save the comment. Preparing a Thanksgiving dinner is an act of love and effort. Thank the cook and focus on enjoying the company. If you really don’t like something, just serve something else without drama.
Don’t compare people
“Your cousin already finished his master’s degree, and what are you doing?” These types of comments can cause feelings of insecurity or unnecessary rivalry. Instead of comparing, celebrate individual accomplishments: “It’s great to have you all here! Everyone has something special to contribute.”
Don’t arrive empty-handed (but don’t complain if others do either)
Although it is not mandatory, bringing a gift such as dessert or wine shows your appreciation to the host. However, don’t criticize those who don’t; sometimes life gets complicated and not everyone can contribute in the same way.
Don’t insist that everyone eat or drink something
“Why don’t you try some of this? Come on, just a bite.” If someone says no, respect that. We all have different tastes or even dietary restrictions. Thanksgiving is more about sharing than pushing.
Final thoughts
Friend, Thanksgiving should be a time to build memories, not break them. Words have power, so use it to fill the atmosphere with warmth and gratitude. Be the uncle, cousin or brother everyone wants to have: the one who makes people laugh, listens and brings good vibes.
Remember, it’s not just about the turkey or the side dishes (although let’s face it, mashed potatoes are a treat). It’s about creating a space where everyone feels welcome and valued. So this year, put the awkward comments aside and devote your energy to what really matters: enjoying yourself together.
